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   What is the definition of detachment? In the Al-Anon program detachment is a loving response to an unmanageable situation. Detach with love but not from the suffering addict or alcoholic. How does a person put detachment into action?

    I am powerless over people, places and things. I am powerless over someone else's choices. When I try and manipulate a person to do what I want him or her to do, I am trying to control that person and the outcome. When my attempts fail at getting someone to change, I am left with a whole lot of baggage such as anger and resentment. I end up feeling discouraged. I end up feeling powerless.

   Being powerless is not a bad place to be. It is then that I become willing to surrender the person or situation to God. I ask for God's help. I begin to feel peaceful again because I know that God will move in ways that will help the person or situation in His time not mine. I am free to change the things I can. The things I can change are my attitude towards the person.

   When I release my hold on the situation, I am better able to detach from the person's behavior but still love this person as a child of God. It is then that I truly am free to love as Jesus' loves. That freedom is a priceless gift that I cherish and hold on it.

  When I am again tempted to control another person or situation, I run to the arms of Jesus and cry out: “I surrender this situation to you. You take care of it. Jesus I trust in you.”

I am the Light of the world, says the Lord; whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the the light of life.” John: 8:12


Help me Father to always walk in the Light of Christ and not stumble over my own attempts at controlling another person or situation.




   Happy Mother's Day to all the women in my life who have touched my life with kindness, love and compassion. I am so grateful to all the women in my life today who are there in the good times and in the most heartbreaking times. Your love and friendship are helping me to be a better woman of God. May God richly bless you today. Who are the women in your life that have touched your heart?

    It is a great day to be Catholic. Today, May 13th is the feast day of the Ascension of Our Lord Jesus Christ and it is the feast day of “Our Lady of Fatima,” and for icing on the cake it is also Mother's Day. It just doesn't get any better than that!

    I am so grateful to my dear mom who had a simple faith and had a beautiful devotion to Our Blessed Mother and to the Rosary. In times of challenges, heartbreak and difficulties, she would pray the Rosary. As an adult I thought the Rosary was just an old ladies pray. But my mom's devotion to Our Blessed Mother finally penetrated my heart especially when I began caring for her when she was so sick. I began once again to pray the Rosary and seek a closer friendship with the Blessed Mother. After my mom died, I became especially drawn to Our Lady. She truly became my spiritual mother.

    As a little girl, my grandparents did not live in the same town as I did. However God provided me with another grandma who lived right across the street from me. Her name was Lenna. She was an elderly woman who seemed to spend a lot of time alone. Her husband worked a lot and seemed to drink a lot too.

   I would go over to her house and we would just sit and talk. She would make me a peanut and jelly sandwich. She had the warmest smile and was so kind to me. I was a very shy kid, and had a hard time talking to people. Grandma Lenna and I would just hang out together and sometimes I helped her bake goodies.  Lenna would give me her grocery list and some money to go to the little neighborhood store two blocks away. Grandma Lenna would always give me some extra money to buy a soda pop, or ice cream cone.

   One time when I was walking home with the sack of groceries, the sack broke and the glass jar of jelly broke. I just sat there and cried. I told Lenna about it and she said, it was okay, gave me a hug, and said it was just jelly. She sent me back to the store to get another jar of jelly. This time the jelly and me made it safely home without any mishaps. I thank Grandma Lenna for loving me and helping me to open my heart to love.


At the moment of the Annunciation, the Blessed Mother Mary was commissioned to bring Jesus into the world.... And yet, in a certain sense, God extends the call He issued to Mary to each of us. God the Father is asking each of us: “Will you bring my Son into the world? Will you carry Him in the womb of your heart as Mary carried Him in the womb of her body? Will you birth Him into the lives of others, that all might come to experience the grace of redemption and eternal life?” Full of Grace by Johnnette Benkovic.


    The song, “I Never Promised you a Rose Garden” is from the 1970s. It is something I say occasionally, “God didn't promise me a rose garden when troubles come my way.” What did God promise us?

    God holds out the promise of eternal salvation for each and everyone of us. “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

    Our Lord and Savior is the Way, the Truth and the Life. To be a follow of the Master requires that we daily surrender it all it Jesus and trust that He will take care of us. Jesus will never forsake us or leave us. God's promises to His people are as numerous as the stars. However, along with His promises, there is persecution, trials, tribulations, and thorns that cut and hurt deeply in this life.

    God our Father gives us all that we need to live a life of joy and peace in the midst of our trials and tribulations. “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” Isaiah 43: 2

    When you are feeling overwhelmed with trials and difficulties, break open the Scriptures and read about all the uplifting promises of God. God did not promise us a rose garden but He did promise us a garden filled with joy, peace, love and hope in the midst of the thorns in this life. Always remember in the midst of our sufferings, our destination is Heaven with God forever. Something to ponder everyday.


Lord Jesus nothing can shake my inner calm for to You I'm clinging. “Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the LORD, who has compassion on you.” Isaiah 54:10



You are Peter, and upon this rock I will build my Church; the gates of the netherworld shall not prevail against it.” Matthew 16:18

    I am beyond blessed to be a member of the Catholic Church. There is something very reassuring to be a member of the Church that Jesus founded on Saint Peter and the Apostles.

   In this world of ever changing trends and the declining of morals in our society, it is so safe to be in the Catholic Church. With over 2000 years of Scripture, Tradition and a never broken line of Popes since St. Peter, it is good to be Catholic today.

    I am safe. I am protected. I am under the umbrella of the Magisterium of the Church. The Magisterium is the teaching authority of the Roman Catholic Church, especially as exercised by bishops and the Pope. It is the official and authoritative teaching of the Roman Catholic Church.

   Like a good Mother, the Church guides and protects her children from the world, the flesh and the devil. The Church gives us Holy Scripture, Traditions and the life of the saints to help us on our journey here. The most precious gifts Jesus gave the Church are the Sacraments especially the Holy Eucharist.

   When I decided I knew better than Holy Mother Church and decided to venture out into Protestant Churches, I became very confused and mixed up. I left the Catholic Church for awhile. But with the help of a few very dedicated Catholic friends who prayed for me, instructed me and loved me back into the Church again, I am here to stay. I was raised Catholic and a priest told me once that you use to have your mother's Catholic faith but now you have made it your own.

    Since that time, I have been on a mission to learn more and  more about my Catholic faith. I never, ever want to leave or be deceived again. The Catholic faith is like an ever ending gold mine. As I continue on my journey I discover yet another gold gem of the faith. It is an excited journey that I will never get tired of discovering. And to think I almost missed this Gold Mine experience. All I can say is by the grace of God go I and I will add His ocean of mercy for me and all his children.


Thank you Jesus for giving us your Holy Catholic Church and Holy Shepherds to guide us. If you've been away from the Catholic Church, please come home. Jesus is waiting for you.

I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the confident hope he has given to those he called--his holy people who are his rich and glorious inheritance.” Ephesians 1:18

As I recall your sincere faith that first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and that I am confident lives also in you.” 2 Timothy 1:5


    Saint Paul's words to Timothy gives us some insight into Timothy's life as a youth. Timothy had a Greek father and a Jewish mother named Eunice. However it was his grandmother Lois who first became a Christian. It was his grandmother who instilled in Timothy and his mother Eunice the desire to become followers of Christ.

    Can't you just imagine the positive influence that his Grandmother Lois had on young Timothy? She lived her Christian faith day in and day out. I can't help but think that in the ordinary day of living, Grandmother Lois shared with her grandson all about Jesus whenever she was given the opportunity. She planted little seeds of faith not knowing for sure if they would produce any fruit in the young lad. She trusted that Jesus would take her grandson into his fold when the young lad was ready.

    Around the year 47, Timothy became a Christian and a little later joined Paul in his apostolic work. Saint Paul continued to mentor Timothy in the faith. “For this reason, I remind you to stir into flame the gift of God that you have through the imposition of my hands.”

    Grandmother Lois mentored the young Timothy first by her example and joy of being a follower of Christ. As grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends to our young people, let us not underestimate the positive influence we can have on them.  

   Through living out our faith each day and through our intercessory prayers for our little ones, we are planting little seeds of faith in them. The insignificant seed of faith planted maybe as tiny as a mustard seed and may take years to sprout. 

   Someday we may get to experience those tiny mustard seeds sprout into a large plant even if it is from the vantage point of our Heavenly Home. What joy there will be on that day!


Lord Jesus help me to be a loving, strong, joyful, and merciful mentor to the young people in my life. “Thank you, Lord that you will command your angels concerning them and guard them in all their ways.” Psalm 91:11



Latest comments

13.05 | 17:40

What a beautiful story about Lenna. May she celebrate with Jesus as we engender her.God bless you, Connie. You have been a beautiful nurturing friend to me.

09.05 | 12:28

i like to learn all about catholic doctrine and i receive and read about your reflections thank for your guidance

20.04 | 21:24

Jill, your beautiful Catholic witness is indeed touching these little ones.

20.04 | 11:29

Thank you, Connie. I pray every Wednesday that I can plant seeds in my R.E. students. I love them, and I want them to know Jesus. God Bless.