“Just say a simple, 'Yes, I will,' or “No, I won't.' Anything beyond this is from the evil
one.” Matthew 5:37
What is the definition of personal boundaries?
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.
This definition sounds clear enough but it is quite hard to put into practice when it comes to those who are
close to you. For me it has to begin with me knowing who I am. First of all, I am a child of God. As God's child, I am to be treated with dignity and respect. When someone treats me with disrespect and lashes out at me with harsh, mean words, I can simple
say to the person. “I do not like the way you just talked to me. This is unacceptable behavior and I will not tolerate it. I am finished talking to you until you treat me with respect.”
I have found that when I stand up for myself and not put up with unacceptable behavior I feel better about myself regardless of the
response of the other person. It also teaches the other person that he or she has crossed the line.
Jesus set boundaries for himself as well. He spoke truth whether those who heard him liked it or not. Sometimes He was silent but always filled with dignity and grace. I will try to follow Jesus' way with dignity and grace one
day at a time.
“I will remember that knowing my boundaries does not mean forcing other to change, it means that I
know my own limits and take care of myself by respecting them.” -Courage to Change-Alanon.